Wahu narrated her gross ordeal that took place when she was 9-years-old. She decided it was time to open up and let people in. It was not easy for her.
During the time of the horrible ordeal, she had travel to upcountry and she was with her mother. She recounts what happened.
“When I was 9 years old, I was sexually molested by my cousin,”she sighs, “My mom had left me his custody and he was probably 19 or 20-years-old. He touched me very inappropriately. I was angry.”
Wahu’s mother had gone to the shamba in order to get some sukuma wiki for them to eat. The mom had trusted her nephew to take care of her little girl while she was away. Little did she know he intended to do the exact opposite.
After touching Wahu inappropriately, he went ahead to give a weak apology and then asked her to do the unthinkable.
“Oooh I’m sorry si then you also touch me the same way,” Wahu recalled.
She continued, “I was 9 years old. It still hurts, it still upsets me when I think about it. My mom was trusting her nephew to take care of her child. She had just gone to pick sukuma wiki. And of course you don’t think that your nephew would.. you know…”
The mother of two had a message to her fellow parents. She warns them not to be too quick to trust anybody just because they are friends and relatives
“I’m saying this now because I think as parents we need to be so watchful and so careful who we let into the space of our homes, who we let into the space of our children. I think I’m more particularly concerned as a mother of girls. I can’t just let any guy into our house and just entrusting them with somebody.”
“That just one innocent act can lead to a lifetime of a young girl growing up with pain, with hurt, with anger and with trust issues,” Wahu stressed.
She urges parents just be more hands on when it comes to caring for their children, both boys and girls. She read somewhere that most of the people who have sexually molested a young person have been relatives.
Wahu couldn’t stress enough the need of parents to create an environment where their children know they can come and tell their parents anything however bad and however hurtful without being fearful. Children should not have to wonder if their parents are going to be on their side and if they are going to be protected.